5 Loving Ways to say NO…

WHY YOU ARE YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY

If you’re reading this sentence, you have this pesky issue with saying “no.” You feel guilty for denying others unlimited access to your time and talents. I plan to convince you why this is self-abusing.

You’re responsible for how others treat you, but more than likely, you’ve gotten the five ‘w’s (who, what, where, when, why) all mixed up and confused. YOU get to choose how you are treated. YOU get to decide who has access to your talents and how much those talents are worth, whether it is web design or energy healing.

Saying NO is a loving act when done in a loving manner. That includes honoring your time and your contributions as an act of self-love. Otherwise, you set yourself up for the consequences of karmic debt and burnout.

Remember to speak with LOVE, in LOVE.

Here are a few ways to lovingly say ‘no’:

1. “I’m not able to help you, but thank you for thinking of me,” means you appreciate the person’s trust in your abilities but that you aren’t available to do what they ask.
2. “Not today. May we reschedule?” means I can’t do this now, but I am happy to help you later.
3. “Here is what I do: I [read tarot, sew costumes, knit dog sweaters] and the cost of my services/product are [cost],” means you expect an exchange of energy to relieve both parties from creating karmic debt.
4. “I can refer you to someone who provides the same services,” means while I can’t help you, I know someone I trust who can.
5. “No,” means NO and that you honor your boundaries and your energies.

Whether it is a client or a friend, a family member or a rude, obnoxious jerk, your refusal can be performed in a loving way. Your refusal grants the other person a kindness. You create a healing space by saying NO, just as you do when you provide your time and energy.

Tell yourself NO. Speak your truth out loud. Remember to speak with LOVE, in LOVE. You may not save everyone from themselves, but you’re too AWESOME to forget to save yourself.

Aman Nai. Namaste. Peace Be With You.

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